My dear friend came over for dinner last night. We sat outside, had a bottle of white wine and a wonderful dinner of Healthy Chicken Pot Pie that I had frozen earlier in the week. She is in a hard place and I understand it because I have been there too. She feels unworthy of happiness.
What could be better than some wonderful soul food to heal us on a soul level?
2 tablespoons real unsalted butter
1 tablespoon olive oil
1/2 cup onion
1 tablespoon minced garlic
cup chopped carrots
cup chopped celery
8 ounces chopped mushrooms
3 tablespoons flour
1.5 cups home-made chicken broth
1 cup chopped cooked chicken breast or tenders
salt and pepper to taste
Saute your onion, celery, and carrot in your butter and oil. The oil will help the butter from burning but also keep the delicious buttery taste without adding another tablespoon of it. When the vegetables are soft, add the mushrooms and cook for a minute or two until cooked through. Then add the garlic. Don’t burn the garlic! Simmer for a minute and then add the flour. Cook this mixture for another minute before adding the broth and whisking at the same time to incorporate. If your mixture seems to thick or thin, add broth or subtract broth according to your own desire. Lastly, mix in cooked chicken and salt and pepper to taste. After everything is incorporated, pour your mixture into a pie pan and top with your Pate Brisee. By only adding a pie topping, you are cutting out half those calories but you will never notice. Promise! Bake your Chicken Pot Pie for 30-45 minutes in a 350 degree oven. This also freezes well. So, double the recipe and make two. One for a night with a friend and another for a week night when there is no time for cooking. Don’t thaw the Chicken Pot Pie when taking it out of the freezer and cook it for about 30 minutes longer or until your crust is golden.
This post is on a little more personal basis of health. I had been struggling with feeling worthy for a long time. I am not even sure when this misconception began for me. I was talking to my dear friend and healer, R. Brian Keith, and he said something that has been on my mind and so poignant that I wanted to share it with you because it is so true.
As I sat in Brian’s office, I told him how I could see this “destination” of worthiness. I said, “I feel so close. I feel like I can see it, touch it, smell it. I want to grab hold of it. But I can’t quite grasp it.” And that is when Brian said to me, “Mandy, worthiness is a state of being.” It isn’t a destination, it is a “state of being”.
Worthiness could mean so many things to so many people. Am I worthy of a loving partner? Worthy of a job I enjoy? Worthy of being paid well? Worthy of food on the table? Worthy of health? Worthy of money? Worthy of dreaming? The list goes on.
My joy has always come from my daughters. My joy also comes from cooking and entertaining. When I can bring that to someone’s home, it gives me great satisfaction. I can do things physically that heal me, like running, yoga, and cooking with healthy ingredients. But all of this isn’t enough if I don’t feel worthy of it.
I also thought that I could reach this “destination” at a certain timeline. I felt like, if I do this, I will feel this. If I don’t do this, I won’t feel that. If I do too much of this, I will feel terrible! Well, I don’t think there is a timeline anymore. Because, if so, I have totally missed the boat. I think that is what is meant by the saying “the journey of life”. It’s not the destination.
I am not sure why I didn’t feel worthy. I don’t think any one person has made me feel unworthy. I think I had been in a “state of being” and that had brought people into my life to confirm my own negative thoughts. Even those that have come into my life and thought of me as an admirable person had been ignored because I didn’t believe it. I don’t believe myself unworthy anymore, because it just isn’t true.
I wanted to share this with you because I talk about getting healthy with the foods that we ingest. However, as we all know, this is only a small part of our journey to living a healthy lifestyle. And we want to do this because it helps us to feel really good on this journey of life. But, no matter how may healthy grains, or healthy fruits and vegetables we eat, if we don’t believe in ourselves as worthy, admirable, and loved individuals, we will never be healthy.
I say today, remind yourself how worthwhile you are and remind those that are dear to you, too. A simple way of doing this is by sharing Chicken Pot Pie with those you love. You are a beautiful being. You have to believe it before anyone else can tell you how lovely you are to them. Believe it. That is the “state of being”. It feels really, really good when you do. Cheers!